Getting started

How to get your kid excited to try Okee

Updated August 10, 2026.

The playbook at a glance

Wait for a calm moment, never right after a blowup
Lead with “I'm setting a screen time goal too”
Offer the founding family angle: their ideas shape the app
Let them pick the first goal and the reward
Ask for a two-week trial with a real exit

Why the pitch is the whole game

38% of teens told Pew Research they spend too much time on their phone. Their own answer, not their parents'. The raw material for a yes is already there; the framing decides what they hear. An announcement ("we're putting an app on your phone") starts a defense. An invitation to a family thing starts curiosity.

You're playing too

Okee works because the whole family plays. Before you pitch anything, set a goal for your own screen time and say it out loud.

Kids have sharp radar for double standards, and the data backs them up:

46% of teens say their parent is at least sometimes distracted by their own phone mid-conversation
47% of parents say they spend too much time on their phone

Open with “I'm setting a goal for myself too, and at our weekly check-in I'll tell you how mine went.” You stop being the referee and become a teammate.

You're not just trying an app, you're shaping one

Families joining before the back-to-school launch are founding families. The roadmap is still being written, and this first cohort of kids helps decide what gets built next. A kid who suggests a feature this fall is talking to the people who can ship it.

For some kids the hook is early access. For others it's bigger: helping build the thing their generation will use, the kind of accomplishment that can land in a school project, a portfolio, or a college essay.

The invitation, word for word

Pick the one that matches your kid.

For the skeptic: "This isn't a punishment and you're not in trouble. It's a team thing. I'm setting a goal for my own screen time too, and honestly, mine might be harder to hit. Want to find out?"

For the negotiator: "You pick the first goal and you pick the reward. Hit your goal for two weeks and you get the thing you choose, like the Friday movie pick or a later weekend bedtime. Deal?"

For the kid who's heard it all before: "I know I've nagged you about your phone, and I'm done doing that. This is me trying something different, and it starts with my own screen time. I'd rather do this with you than at you."

Then stop talking. Let them poke holes. Every objection is engagement, not refusal.

Hand them the controls

People commit to what they choose and resist what's assigned. Your kid decides three things, for real:

The first goal, even if it's easier than you'd like. Ownership beats ambition in week one.
The reward, picked from family privileges: dinner choice, later bedtime, car playlist, one-on-one outing.
When the weekly check-in happens.

Make the first week a win

Week one isn't for changing behavior, it's for your kid to feel what winning is like. Families in our beta, live since April, cut about an hour of screen time a day, and the ones who stayed with it started with goals that felt almost too easy.

Three ways to blow the launch

After a blowup

Pitched the night you caught them on their phone at 1 a.m., it reads as a sentence, not an invitation. Wait for a calm, boring moment.

As a consequence

"If you'd managed your time better we wouldn't need this" undoes everything above.

Sitting out yourself

If your kid is the only one with a goal, it's a report card, not a team. Set your own and share how it goes.

The quote bank: lines you can use tonight

Steal these word for word. One or two is enough; this is a conversation, not a speech.

Most apps are finished when you get them. This one is still being built, and the builders are listening.
You wouldn't just be using the app. Your ideas could change what it becomes.
I'm setting my own goal too. At the weekly check-in I'll tell you how mine went, and you can hold me to it.
You pick the first goal and you pick the reward. I don't touch either one.
If you hate it after two weeks, we delete it and I drop it.
Fair. Tell me what would make it worth trying, and I'll take it to the team. That's kind of the whole idea.

Frequently asked

What if my kid refuses outright?

Don't push. Ask for a two-week trial with a real exit: 'If you hate it after two weeks, we delete it and I drop it.' A time-boxed yes is easier to give than a forever yes, and two weeks is enough for the streaks and the first reward to make their own case.

What age does this work for?

The invitation works from about 8 up. Younger kids want in on anything framed as a family game. Tweens and teens need the autonomy pieces: real choices, a parent who plays too, no double standards.

Should I pay my kid to try it?

Cash works less well than you'd hope. Research consistently finds external cash rewards can crowd out the internal motivation you're building. Privileges tied to the relationship hold up better: the movie pick, the later bedtime, the one-on-one time. See our guide 'Should you pay your kid to put the phone down?'

What if the excitement fades after week one?

Normal. The weekly check-in is the maintenance plan: five minutes, everyone shares how their week went, and your kid adjusts their own goal for the next week. Interest follows attention, and the check-in keeps attention on the team.

What does my family get for joining early?

Founding families get the app before the public App Store launch, a direct line to the team building it, and first say on the roadmap. The honest pitch to your kid: the app is still being shaped, and the people shaping it are listening to kids right now.